How a man to win over?

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Some of us girl is getting ga-ga on how to win a man's attention, as I'd browsed the Yahoo News one particular article has caught my attention and want to share it with you too so I highlighted the important one. Here are the 7 subtle ways to win him over:

7 subtle ways to win him over
by Elise Nersesian

Look up at him
If you’re flirting with a guy, tilt your head forward while you chat. According to Australian research, when a woman looks up at a man, she appears more feminine, because the height difference between them is amplified. And when guys feel strong and tall around a woman, they’re more motivated to win her affection.

Rock something red
Research conducted by the University of Rochester says that women who wear red are more appealing than women wearing any other color. As a result, men are instinctively drawn to the rosy color,” says Andrew J. Elliot, Ph.D., of the Department of Clinical and Social Sciences at the University of Rochester. So swipe on some rose-tinted lip gloss, tie your hair back with a red ribbon, or just paint your fingernails a fiery red.

Stand on his right when you speak
If you’re bold enough to ask him out, boost your odds of getting a “yes” by whispering your invitation into his right ear.  Scientists say the left side of the brain — which is the side that best processes verbal communication — absorbs information through the right ear.

Slip on a pair of stilettos
In addition to making your legs look toned and lean, high heels give the illusion of smaller feet. Why is this key?  men think women with smaller feet have prettier faces. The small-footed woman as being more attractive, and almost 10 times as likely to say she seemed more feminine. “Smaller feet on a woman signify healthy genes and a positive rearing environment with high-quality food,” says the study’s coauthor, Jeremy Atkinson, an evolutionary psychologist at the University at Albany-SUNY.

Play the right tunes
If you’re at a party and have access to the music, play James Blunt or Bruno Mars. A study published in the journal Psychology of Music found that tunes with mushy lyrics make men feel more romantic and generous. he men who heard love songs playing while they were in the shop spent significantly more money on flowers than men who listened to pop tunes or no music at all.  Researchers surmise that love songs subconsciously prime men for real-life romance.

Spritz yourself for a beauty boost
Wearing black has a great slimming effect, but the right scent is an even sweeter trick to try when you’re looking for love. he same research also shows that women who smell like grapefruit appear to be five years younger to men, possibly due to the rejuvenating effects of the citrus itself. Dab perfume or essential oils on the inside of your wrists, behind your ear and on your throat before your next date.

Schedule a late-afternoon date
If you’re having a “fat day,” suggest a pre-dinner date.  Research conducted by Newcastle University in England found that when men are hungry, they find a heavier-set woman more attractive than when they’re
full.

Elise Nersesian has written for Redbook, Stuff and other national magazines. 

To read the full details of this article you can visit this link:  http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=12718&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=856892

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Thanks for this wonderful article by Elise Nersesian, now women had the idea on how to win a man's "Yes". Girls have fun.

JELL-OW DRAMA-RAMA

I was then staring blankly at the computer reading blogs of other Friendsters-addict (laughs), like me. Well, it just comes up to my thought that somehow whatever we watch on television it could really happen in our lives, maybe you're asking me now what am I talking about? Well, I just had a realization in the past relationship that I had and somehow acted so foolishly which I think too crazy enough to look back (lol). Well, I am not supposed to disclose the secrecy of my folly because it’s too personal and so down degrading to retaliate, but somehow stories like mine was just an ordinary thing happen to someone who got broken hearted, but I thought it was too funny to look back (since I never thought I will act so foolishly). Anyway, it happened than in the past.

I guess, everyone had ever watched TV soap opera -- a love stories when two lovers have to part ways, and then one is sobbing so hardly? If you ever had watch I guess you knew what I am really talking about. When I watch those kinds of soap opera I had thought it was too over re-acting, it’s too unbelievable, but it wasn’t passed in my mind that I would ever experience the same kind of reaction when I got broken hearted. But a big YES, it's happened to me. So, I wrote a short flashback of the story of my foolish act. (lol)

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A Synopsis of the past: It was 5 years ago when my boyfriend and I had broken up I said to myself I will never get affected no matter what happen and that I am would never feel the pain that others does. Yet, one day my own thoughts proved me that I was wrong, that I am not a superwoman who is in control of everything. While sitting on the bus going to my work one particular song played on the radio it was caught me melancholic (it was a song that my boyfriend used to dedicate to me whenever he sang it or even played over the radio when we were together then...). Never did I notice that tears came rolling by like a waterfall in Majayjay Valley (somewhere in Laguna, Philippines) without end; before I even realized that I'd finished a roll of tissue in my hand. It was too disgusting to look at myself 'cause I didn't even know how to compose myself no matter how I tried I keep sobbing incessantly -- crying like a helpless child who lost somewhere in the middle of nowhere where nobody could give me a help. That is the very first time in my life I look overly crazy in just a snap of a finger just-because-of-a-past-song ( it was like a soap-opera indeed). Lol. Can you realize how hard I cried that I'd finished a roll of tissue paper and want even more?

(The bus driver, my seatmate and other bus enthusiast are my deft witnesses on this crazy moment of mine. Lol.)

There is another one unforgettable situation that had happened it was when I woke up one morning then all I did was crying it seems that I had a bad nightmare on the night before that no one could ever stop me from sobbing, then after awhile suddenly I was caught a dead blank in silence staring nowhere.

Then again, it was lunch time when my father called me to join them on the table, then suddenly I cried, cried, and cried my father who was going to fetch me for lunch was then surprised but never ask he just let me cry until the last teardrops fall...Father knows it well, I guess.

Though I hadn’t planned to be in that situation thinking that I was brave enough to handle it when I broke up with my bf. Yet, no matter how we thought that we can control it, our feelings, our emotions, nor our reactions there still a possibility that we can still feel the pain because we're human and have a heart. 

(Now I knew that somehow whatever you watch on TV could possibly happen in real life or there could be a pattern.)

Now, I could say is whatever we watch on television is not all mere fantasy or over-reacting it could be somehow a true to life story of our lives, and somehow it connects every part of it that we could use as an armor or a shield in the future.

I knew I am not alone agonizing on an unsuccessful relationship... I guess, what I had before its not yet all true love because if it is we end up together. :)

(originally written: 5/8/06)

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On About Love

They said, "Love is stupid" as the one song goes Stupid Love!!!

But no wait… for me Love is not stupid but is the greatest thing in the universe that we could ever hope for. And yet, sometimes we did foolish thing in the name of love but not in the other way round. Sometimes we are being fooled by those false promises and those sweeten words from the man we choose to love, for all we know those are just bittersweet words that we will ever taste. It might be a game they plan to hurt someone or to pleasure themselves whatever that is we might not falsely believe that it was LOVE who hurt us but it is the man/woman we trusted to love.

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There are times when someone knocks on our door we thought that it was love all along, but then later on we figured out that we embark onto something more complicated thing, but then we tend to become blind until we configured it out it goes in the wrong way.

Sometimes we try to scapegoat to the reality and we reason out ourselves that what we had wasn't all true love or we might just need someone to hang around and share our thoughts. Someone where you can air your agony or maybe an outlet of your angst. Sometimes we are being fooled by our own selves, our own feelings and our own thoughts, that being with this someone is the right thing to do. But before you know it wasn't the called thing LOVE but merely someone who is just fun to be with which in the moment of your solitude he/she is the one who is around to make you smile and see the brighter side of life, but the truth is it wasn't real love all along. All just was a fancy feeling of having someone to be by your side to cover up all the scars and pain that we carry it on from our previous relationship. Truth is hard to accept but reality bites, isn't it?

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"sometimes we thought that someone is the key that fits to our door heart. (Lori)"

We have to be very careful with the word Fun and Love these two have different kind of meaning. Fun is the one you enjoy doing fancy thing with the person you are with at the moment and Love is the one you do out of unconditional things for this person, with joy and pain you still long to standstill, because you LOVE him/her for a fact that it contains lot of suffering and consequences.

Fancy Love means is the one will fade out as time goes by. True Love will remain forever.

Yet, many are abhors to love because they think it was Love who fooled them and yet, for me it wasn't the LOVE rather the person who promised to love us for the rest of our lives, but tempted in a different way. No precautions are given to stay the love that he/she feels for us, but there is only one thing that's left is true and can be a very powerful tool which is to let GOD rule in our lives and in our hearts, and be the center of our relationship, and everything will be in a perfect place. Let's God control of everything and he will give the desire of our hearts.

Maybe somebody won’t believe in this saying, or an atheist would disagree, but no matter what “WE ALL LIVE FOR LOVE.”

...these are just my point of view we have our own side of views and I respect on that. Have a good life and spread love.